DEAR MISS MANNERS: We own a home in a fairly nice neighborhood where people take good care of their homes and gardens. Many of our neighbors have housekeepers, gardeners, carpenters, etc.

I occasionally cross paths with these service providers and want to ask them for their business cards, but a voice in my head says I should ask my neighbors first and go through them. Any advice?

Stories by Judith Martin

Miss Manners: Why must I go along with these farcical ‘wedding’ events when couple is already married?

Miss Manners: It’s fine to mention food allergies when host invites you to a meal

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GENTLE READER: Yes: Listen to that voice.

Poaching other people’s domestic help is not looked upon kindly. You

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