Dear Eric: I am in a leadership role at my church. Our community is very loving. We have a relatively new member who is a dear older woman. We think she may be dealing with a bit of dementia. She is very grateful for our community and wants to be involved.

The problem is she signs up to do many of the tasks needed for Sundays and for other events/occasions, but then doesn’t show up or doesn’t do the tasks that are part of the thing she signed up for. How do we handle this in a loving, kind and compassionate way?

We have an online sign-up that has a specific number of people needed for each task. If she takes one of these slots, all of the work ends up being on the other person or people’s shoulders. Please help, thank you!

— Trying to Be Kind

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