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Dear How to Do It,

Hear me out, I know this sounds insane…

But ever since I walked in on my wife douching in the bathroom two weeks ago, my desire for sex has evaporated like rain in a desert. You simply can’t unsee some things. She’s beginning to wonder what’s going on. I’ve told her there’s been a lot going on at work, but I can’t keep putting her off forever. Help!

—My Eyes Have Been Sullied

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