Dear Annie: I’m 73, and my wife is 74. We’ve been married for 53 years and have never spent a night apart due to marital conflict. Admittedly, each of us may have spent a night or two on the couch, but my point here is that I think we’re still happily married.

The problem is that we’ve not been intimate for nearly 10 years. The closest we get is maybe a hug or peck on the cheek. Nothing else! When I attempt to discuss this issue with her, she only mentions her chronic urinary tract infections and blames me for not understanding how uncomfortable it is for her to have intercourse. If I suggest any other type of intimate relations — and believe me, I do it very tactfully — she finds a way to end the discussion.

So, Annie, what do I do? I’ve decided that it requires too much work to pleasur

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