DEAR HARRIETTE: Every time I see a certain friend of mine, she finds something to criticize about me.

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Often, she exclaims how big my shoes look. Well, I am tall and have big feet, but I don’t appreciate having that pointed out all the time.

I never criticize how she looks. I fear she is anorexic. Every time I see her, I worry that she is killing herself, yet I bite my tongue. She is so frail.

Why is it that she feels she has license to poke at me? How can I get her to stop?

— No More Jabs

DEAR NO MORE JABS: Have you ever asked her to stop? She may not know that her comments upset you.

Next time she says something that you don’t like, stop her in the moment. Tell her it hurts your feelings when she points out your vulnerabilities. You can add that you never do that t

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