My dad supports his sibling with monthly payments. I think my wife and I need that money more.

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Dear Pay Dirt,

About five years ago, before he died, my father arranged to give a large amount of money each month to an ill sibling. This sibling and his wife have never been good with money. But they not only have a house that is twice the cost of mine, they sent their son to an expensive out-of-state university, whereas mine have gone to in-state schools. The sibling’s son has now graduated college, and my wife has what is usually a terminal disease. Between what the sibling is getting and his wife’s income, they make more than we do.

My father left no indication of his desires with regards to this arrangement. My mom says she is unhappy with the arrangement, b