MISS MANNERS by Judith Martin, Nicholas Ivor Martin and Jacobina Martin

DEAR MISS MANNERS: For 15 years, since our two daughters have had partners whom they married, my husband and I chose to have Thanksgiving dinner on Friday so our kids could spend Thursday with their in-laws.

This year, our younger daughter announced that she was starting her own family tradition and having Thanksgiving dinner on Thursday at her newly purchased home. We were invited to attend. She said she would be too tired to come to our dinner on Friday.

This daughter and her husband have also counted the number of times my husband and I have visited them, and decided that they want “one more visit per year” in the interest of “the importance of family.” Any advice?

GENTLE READER: Yes: Go to your younger daughter

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