Asking Eric: My sister-in-law brings up wedding snub 51 years later

Dear Eric: My sister-in-law, Suzy, married John 51 years ago in a state distant from where we lived at the time. I am married to John’s older brother. I was seven months pregnant with our third child, and we were living paycheck to paycheck at the time, which made spending money on travel and accommodations a burden.

But the real reason I did not want to attend the wedding was because John did not choose to include my husband, his only brother, in the wedding party. He chose a cousin to be his best man.

There was never any discussion at the time of the wedding regarding his choice, and our excuse for not attending was that it was just too much of a financial burden with the baby on the way.

Now our granddaughter is engaged to be married, and Suzy told her that we did not attend their we