Dear Abby: I want to spoil my grandson but my daughter’s ‘house rules’ are so controlling

DEAR ABBY: My daughter won’t allow me to have a relationship with my toddler grandson without constantly interfering. Everything is “no.” She says things like: “Don’t bring him a toy every time you come over -- no more toys. No TV. Don’t play the (kids) music too loud. No, he cannot go outside; there are bugs or it’s too hot. Don’t give him milk now. Don’t give him a snack.”

I have to ask her permission for everything, and it is so stressful. When I tell her, “But you buy him toys,” she responds, “Well, I’m the mother.” It seems almost bizarrely competitive. She’s exhausting. Does she have the right to disrupt my relationship with my only grandchild in this way? -- CONTROLLED GRANDMA IN FLORIDA

DEAR GRANDMA: I’m afraid she does. Not knowing your daughter, I can’t explain why she is det