Key points

Holiday memories trigger nostalgia that can make an ex seem more desirable than they are.

Loneliness and stress, not true change, often drive urges to reconnect.

Alcohol lowers judgment, increasing impulsive texts or calls to an ex.

Before replying, revisit why you ended things and whether anything has truly changed.

The holidays are a time when nostalgia comes rushing in—often uninvited, and sometimes wearing a familiar face. Many people feel a sudden urge to reach out to an ex this time of year. The question is: Why? And should we ever follow through?

Below, we explore the psychological underpinnings of holiday reconnection, how to tell genuine longing from seasonal loneliness , and what to do if that “Happy Holidays :)” text shows up on your phone.

Why the Holidays

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