• Many couples don't talk about their long-term life together until after they're engaged. • Wedding therapist Landis Bejar said delaying those conversations can be a mistake. • She recommends talking about children or handling finances before getting engaged.

When you get engaged, your first conversations with your partner are likely about wedding planning and giddy daydreams about spending your lives together.

After that excitement settles, though, many engaged couples start discussing the kind of life they want to live together from a practical perspective, from their financial future to whether they want kids.

Those conversations are important, but a therapist told Business Insider that couples should have those discussions before getting engaged.

Landis Bejar, a wedding therap

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