The goal is to change and keep changing

It’s a two-way street between the offended and the offenders. Both think it is the duty of the other – to change.

The truth, though, is that it is the task of each one of us to change, and to keep changing throughout our lives, because when we stop changing, we stop living, or at least being alive. Without change, there are no new thoughts or insights, no new discoveries, sensations or experiences, nothing left to learn and no one left to forgive, not even oneself.

The onus, in the view of the offended, is on the offender — to change the words they use and the way they look at the world, to stop putting people in boxes, and assigning labels, and passing judgments — though the offended, themselves, are often quick to judge.

The problem, according to the offenders, is that the offended ar