Dear Abby: I’m struggling with something that feels both silly and painful. I’ve developed intense feelings (maybe even “limerence”) for a man I know, and no matter how hard I try, no one else seems to compare. I have tried dating apps, looking at younger guys, older guys, conventionally attractive guys. Nothing clicks. I keep thinking, why can’t I just lower my standards? Or, why can’t I find others attractive when I know logically this person isn’t the only man on Earth?

Am I broken? Am I too fixated on a type? Am I missing out on good people just because they don’t give me butterflies? I know I can’t (and maybe shouldn’t) wait around for this one guy, but opening myself up to others feels impossible when they all feel so “meh” or even repulsive in comparison. How can I break out of th

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