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Dear How to Do It,

Me (I’m a 48-year-old man) and my partner (a 38-year-old woman) have been in a relationship for two years. She is poly and has another partner. I’m free to have another, but I am not looking for anybody else. We have a fantastic relationship that I highly value. It’s the best relationship I’ve ever been in. But since November and the election, well, the sex has suffered.

I understand this. I brought it up at the time. We shared an intense sexual connection, and I knew the distractions would impact that. I said that if we couldn’t be present because of the stress of current events, I would rather miss amazing sex than have mediocre sex with

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