Dear Eric: One of my best friends, who is a lesbian, just met a girl two weeks ago and they’ve already said “I love you” to each other. The other girl seems genuinely lovely, and my friend is very happy, which makes me happy!

Not only is this moving very quickly, but the other girl just got out of an engagement in June. It seems clear that she’s still processing this because, when I met her, she spent most of the time talking about all her issues with her ex. Going from being engaged to one person to telling another you love them, in the span of two months, feels jarring to me.

How should I feel? Do I need to feel a certain way? Do I just support my friend and see how it goes?

– Cautious Friend

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