“I am in a new romantic involvement with hopes it could lead to marriage and a family. It’s not been going well and I’m not sure how much work to put into it. What does it take to get another person to admit they have personal issues, like controlling behavior and a short temper, that they are not facing up to? When do I suggest a counselor. Who should pay?”

G: For you and your lover to grow together, into a functional happy family life, some serious hurdles must be overcome. For starters, I do not know if you believe you have tried everything to create a functional, happy romantic relationship. Have you?

Your spiritual obligation to yourself, and to any future marriage partner, is to do an assessment of your own behavior and communication style. Be forthcoming about your reservations an

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