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Dear How to Do It,

I recently had a casual encounter with a man I met at a social event. He asked for my number, we texted a bit, went out for dinner, and had sex.

Prior to hooking up we discussed boundaries, likes/dislikes, desires, etc. We mutually agreed that we value a strong connection that we want to bring to sexual encounters, which would ideally be repeat encounters even if it’s just for casual sex. I was excited to find someone on the same page as me who wasn’t going to ghost me after getting laid.

Except … the sex was awkward. For me. He really enjoyed it and was really vocal during the act about how much he was enjoying the sex, really effusively

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