Is Your Perfectionism About Control or Connection?

Key points

Not all perfectionism is the same.

Perfectionism rooted in control is anxiety's attempt to prevent harm.

Perfectionism rooted in distorted beliefs is anxiety's attempt to secure love and acceptance.

Many people recognize that perfectionism is a characteristic of anxiety ; however, not all perfectionism is created equal. There are two distinct sources of perfectionism, each motivated by a different need. Understanding the difference between them and what is required by each to alleviate anxiety can make all the difference if you struggle with perfectionism.

In my recently published book, Anxiety Unpacked: Discover Your Type and Recover Your Peace , I identify three main root causes of anxiety: catastrophizing , control, and distorted beliefs. Each presents with unique