So, your kid came out to you as LGBTQ. Or, okay, maybe they haven’t quite come out yet, but you have hints they might be about to. Maybe you overheard your kid’s conversation with a friend, or you just have an intuition about your child like you do yourself and know. Either way: Congrats! You have a kid who is beautiful — and likely has more self-awareness than the average clumsy adolescent. Of course, you might be feeling many things about the news — including feelings you aren’t sure about or even don’t want to admit, such as confused or angry or sad or at a loss for how to proceed.
As a queer adult who was once a queer kid coming of age (and who has worked in advocacy and civil rights for many years), I’ve put together a few tips for parents that 100% would have made my own coming-out