Rachael Kirkconnell addressed her intimacy “dry spell” and how it intersected with her four-year relationship with The Bachelor lead Matt James. On October 16, 2025, during Hallie Batchelder’s Extra Dirty podcast, she said, “I feel like a virgin again,” adding, “I haven’t had sex way longer than you think. It’s been years.” She also described why physical attraction alone isn’t enough for her right now.

What Rachael actually said on Extra Dirty

Kirkconnell emphasized that her chosen pace is intentional and rooted in needing emotional safety: “I can’t just give it up to just anyone. I want it to be special.” She also explained that she may identify as “demisexual,” clarifying that someone can be “really attractive,” but “if they’re a terrible person or have the worst personality eve

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