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Dear How to Do It,

I have been seeing someone for seven months now and have really hit it off with him. He is kind, funny, intelligent, and the sex is great. But last week he made a shocking confession to me that was so unfathomable I could never have seen it coming. And let me tell you—I wish it was an affair.

He is a Catholic priest! He says he has been having doubts about whether the choice was the right one for him and has said that he would be willing to give it up if it means we can have a future together. I don’t know what to think. I’m furious he kept this from me, but at the same time I can’t help but be touched that he would be willing to sacrifice so mu

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