Paul Brunson: I've watched thousands of dates - here's the thing everything does wrong

In my line of work, I’ve watched thousands of dates. And I think I have an idea of what’s going wrong for people – particularly in modern dating where many interactions are initially app-based .

I watch singles spend hours crafting the “perfect” profile, rehearsing conversations, and essentially creating a character they think their date will find irresistible. They’re so focused on presenting this polished version of themselves that they forget something crucial: relationships aren’t built on perfection, they’re built on connection.

A friend recently told me about a date where the woman had clearly memorised a list of “interesting” topics. She rattled through them like she was ticking boxes – travel adventures, quirky hobbies, career achievements. Her date looked increasingly overwh