This is how we do it: ‘I’ll have to tell my wife what’s going on soon’

Andy, 55

What makes the sex incredible is our chemistry, and the complete lack of judgment and pressure

When I met Rita through a ramblers’ club 18 months ago, I was instantly fascinated by her, and the more that we flirted at group meet-ups, the more intrigued I became. Still, I waited months to initiate anything – making up some pretext to pop over, then asking permission to kiss her. She agreed, but she said she needed more time to think before taking things any further, which of course I understood – though I was dying to sleep with her.

When she did invite me over explicitly for that purpose, the decision felt measured, but the sex itself was wonderfully playful and spontaneous. We’re both obsessed with oral, and we’ve messed around with bondage, too. In general, though, I’d say ou