DEAR MISS MANNERS: I love to cook and to host dinner parties, and we have many friends who reciprocate. The wife of one of the couples does not like cilantro (completely understandable), and the husband of another couple does not eat onions or garlic.

Is it rude to make separate side dishes for each of them that do not contain these ingredients, while the rest of the group has sides that contain them?

In other words, should I forgo these ingredients for everyone so that we all eat the same side dishes?

GENTLE READER: Are your other guests insistent that their meals exclusively be accompanied by salsa?

Because otherwise, it seems to Miss Manners that omitting those three ingredients still leaves a pretty wide berth for alternate sides. And making the same thing for everyone has the adva

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