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Like many women these days, 30-year-old Jude Cohen is over dating apps. So she’s decided to relinquish some of the responsibility in finding a partner: “I’m asking my friends to set me up,” the New York City-based communications consultant says.

Late last year, a family friend heeded the call and, without warning, introduced Cohen to a potential date via text. The man lived in her hometown, hundreds of miles away, but she wasn’t opposed to long distance.

Prior to their date a few weeks later — Cohen was back in town for a wedding — she knew scant about him. She made an attempt to find her date’s Instagr

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