Dear Eric: My daughter is getting married next year at a location that is about a six-hour drive from here and accessible only by ferry. It will be an outdoor wedding so there may be a lot of walking and uneven terrain.

I don’t know whether or not to invite my oldest friend. I don’t want to offend her by not inviting her, but I also don’t want her to feel obligated to travel that distance and that terrain with her mobility issues or to buy a wedding present. I want her to know that she is a valued friend without burdening her.

What is the best approach?

– Torn Friend

Dear Friend: Honesty can be so kind. It allows you to be clear in your intent and also offers your friend the chance to make an informed decision. So, give her the full picture, just as you laid it out here. “Of course y

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