Key points

When there is a disconnect between what we say and how we feel, we are more likely to feel misunderstood.

Many of us have developed a chronic pattern of performing as "OK."

We hide how we feel because we unconsciously fear that we are not worthy and lovable as our authentic selves.

Healing begins when observe how we truly feel and lean into authenticity and vulnerability.

Want to know the biggest problem with faking it?

It leads to loneliness.

Disconnection from self can feel quiet, heavy, and hard to name. Source: Hailey Wright/Unsplash

One of the most consistent patterns I have noticed in my work as a psychologist is that people “perform” as feeling better than they actually feel. While clients are coming in for a variety of reasons—feeling stuck or overwhelmed, usi

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