Dear Abby: I want to educate cheap groom on wedding etiquette but husband says no

DEAR ABBY: My husband’s best friend, “Herb,” (aka “Mr. Cheapo”) is getting married for the third time. He’s planning the wedding and suggesting the attendees pay for their meals. I told my husband that Herb is setting himself up for failure again. (Not to mention he’s having his fiancee sign a prenup as he did with his other two wives.) I’m beside myself just thinking about it. Attendees have expenses, too, and what will his fiancee think when people send their regrets or don’t bring a gift?

I’m ready to override my husband’s suggestion not to educate this man on wedding etiquette. Otherwise, Herb’s a super guy, very nice and well-mannered. I know for a fact that his cheapness destroyed his second marriage and a subsequent relationship. Both women complained profusely to me about it befo