Key points

Flirting can be effective or very aversive.

Poor flirting skills may lead to being "friend-zoned."

Be aware of good manners and good hygiene.

Flirting to attract a partner can go very well, or it can go poorly. Sadly, many individuals just don't know what they did wrong and it is unlikely that those who they are flirting with will fill them in on their problematic flirting habits. In my consulting room, I hear about many dates and/or other interactions that seem to fall flat very quickly despite good intentions. These individuals report feeling frustrated and confused about the rejection they experience when they are trying to put their best selves forward.

In an attempt to identify problematic flirting styles that tend to be deal-breakers, Apostolou and Eleftheriou (2022)

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