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Dear How to Do It,

My girlfriend’s ex was judgmental and weird, specifically about one part of her body.

He was against her body hair. She’s said that she didn’t care much about it until they dated, and now she cares a lot. We’ve been together for an entire year, and she still doesn’t want to have sex unless she’s shaved and plucked and everything is just right. I don’t care about that. She doesn’t have much hair, even when she’s “hairy,” and it’s not like it gets in the way. My ex rocked a full bush and left her eyebrows and armpits natural, too. Hair doesn’t impact my attraction or experience at all. But my girlfriend gets so worried about it, and it gets i

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