Why We Get in Our Own Way and What to Do About It

Key points

Self-sabotage is often a protective response, but it can cost us opportunities, growth, and fulfillment.

Both internal fears and external pressures can influence us to hold ourselves back.

Growth and moving beyond self-sabotage require courage, support, and self-belief.

Why do we sometimes lose sight of our goals , hold ourselves back, play small, or limit our own success?

It can look like holding onto the dream of writing your own book but constantly telling yourself it’s not the right time. Or like staying in a familiar work environment or a bad relationship, even though you imagine something better. It can look like downplaying or not sharing your achievements for fear of standing out.

Many of us have dreamed of pursuing big, bold goals, only to find ourselves hesit