Dear Lizzy,
My niece moved to my city a couple of years ago. I thought, “Great!” She’s only 15 minutes away. I send her texts inviting her to fun events; she always says yes, but when the day comes, something has come up and she cancels. My husband and I adored her, and we spoiled her when she was young. I also have friends who I make arrangements with and they cancel at the last minute, too. I can’t take any more rejection. Please advise me.
Sincerely,
Feeling Rejected
Dear Feeling Rejected,
I’m so sorry! Putting yourself out there and getting a “yes,” and then watching it turn into a “no” is painful, especially on repeat.
There are, I have found, some people who say “yes” because they think it is what the person inviting them wants to hear – they are right, of course, but they aren