As a clinician, I’m encouraged that people are talking about boundaries more than ever, whether at work, at home, or with friends. Yet too often, we reduce boundaries to a single idea: saying no. Of course, this is easier said than done, especially if you have a fierce InnerPleaser (a term I use in my upcoming book, Serial Fixer- Break Free From the Habit of Solving Other People’s Problems , to describe the internal part of us that prioritizes others’ needs at the expense of our own). Saying the two-letter word “no” is not nearly as simple as it sounds. That tiny word carries immense power, and for many of us, it uncovers internal conflicts we wrestle with every single day.

Your inner pleaser's main job is to protect you from the feelings we all instinctively try to avoid, such as jud

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