Family advice: I've been making a kind gesture for my vegetarian husband for years. He just let me know how he really feels about it.

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Dear Care and Feeding,

I have been married to my vegetarian husband for more than 10 years, and we have two school-aged children. He has been a vegetarian for more than 20 years and has never pressured me or anyone else to adopt his diet. I enjoy cooking and grocery shopping, and make it a personal priority to continue to learn and improve my skills.

I have some great meat-free meals that we have on our family rotation, but I often make a meal where I can offer both meat and a vegetarian option. My husband will only cook vegetarian food, and it stresses me out because he just sort of makes things up along the way. We are both strong-willed people, so this has been a poin