The world has changed. The rules have changed. And many people since Covid appear to ignore the limits that have been set on them—in families, at work, in communities, and anywhere. That’s why my colleague, Ekaterina Ricci, and I co-authored the book SLIC Solutions: Setting Limits and Imposing Consequences in 2½ Steps.
Some people ignore the rules and don’t pay attention to the limits that others set on their behavior (we think of them as high-conflict people or HCPs or bullies) unless a meaningful consequence will follow if they violate the limit. HCPs often (but not always) have Cluster B personality disorders — narcissistic , borderline, antisocial and histrionic personalities—which studies show have a strong association with being domineering, vindictive, and intrus