The 4 Most Common Topics Couples Argue About

Key points

The hot topics for couples are usually sex, money, parenting, and lifestyle.

What often drives these problems are differences in anxiety, parental upbringing, polarization, and power.

The key to solving problems is adopting an us-against-the-problem stance and creating win-win compromises.

What do you and your partner argue about? Though the details—the facts and context of the argument—usually vary, most likely you find yourselves always circling around one or two familiar topics. Here are the four most common areas and their underlying issues. See where you fit.

1. Parenting

Who is being too strict, and who is being too lax? What of children’s behaviors need to be addressed, and what can be ignored? What are the consequences, and how are they enforced? Are the children b