Self-Reward: The Power of Brief Utterances

Key points

Self-reward acknowledges our own efforts and accomplishments, regardless of how big or small.

Internal validation is especially important in environments where praise is rare or success goes unnoticed.

Effective self-reward aligns with values, rather than escaping from them.

The desire for external validation, along with external regulation of emotions, can make us feel like reactaholics— that is, controlled by the impressions and judgments of others. In contrast, self-reward is a powerful tool for personal growth, motivation , and emotional well-being.

Self-reward acknowledges our own efforts and accomplishments, regardless of how big or small. Unlike external rewards, which depend on the approval or recognition of others, self-reward draws upon self-awareness and se