4 Major Mistakes Couples Make When They Argue

Key points

Avoidance of conflict only breeds resentment and makes things worse in the long run.

Past traumas can shape current arguments, so it's critical to understand and recognize projections.

Partners should accept their differences; demanding identical thinking creates distance, not closeness.

From my experience as a couples and relationship therapist, I’ve noticed common patterns that couples often fall into when they argue. These patterns lead to mistakes that prevent effective communication. Let me share with you the four most common ones and tips on how to deal with them.

Mistake 1: Avoiding Conflicts Altogether

So many couples believe that avoiding arguments means having a healthy relationship! But the opposite is the truth: Conflict of interests is natural when two peopl