Maryanne feels blah. The news gets her down. Her work role has shifted slightly, and is now a bit busier and less interesting. Her dad recently had to stop driving, and watching him lose some independence and spark is sad.

She's not depressed , but her zest to grow and improve feels distant. It's been 10 years since she completed a Master's on top of full-time work, and she wonders where that energy and ambition came from. That person seems far away now.

Like many of us, Maryanne has internalized a specific model of growth, that's about setting a clear goal, and pursuing it relentlessly and stoically. That's such a dominant model of self-improvement, we may not realize it's not the only model.

If you feel like Maryanne and your desire to self-improve has been suppressed by life's ch

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