Common Myths About Abuse That Keep Survivors in Denial

Key points

Early family dynamics shape our understanding of what abuse looks like.

Stereotypes about social class, gender, and sexuality often keep victims from acknowledging their history.

These misconceptions often prevent victims from coming forward due to missed warning signs.

Donovan sat on the couch across from me, his head in his hands. “I can’t be a victim of abuse,” he said slowly.

“Why not?” I asked gently, hoping to provoke thought and reflection.

“Because I am a man!” he said, head popping up. “And he never put his hands on me...” he followed up, reflecting on the unhealthy relationship with his partner that had brought him into therapy .

I gave the classic “therapist nod”—the kind that signals I’m listening but really invites him to think more deeply. I wanted Donovan