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Dear Care and Feeding,

My husband and I have a 7-month-old son, “Jeremy.” Recently, Jeremy’s grandmother “Lucinda” came for a visit and did something that has me blind with rage. Jeremy is teething, and Lucinda likes to have brandy every evening. I left her with Jeremy while I took a work call. When I came back, she had her finger in his mouth. When I asked what she was doing, she said she’d dipped her finger in her brandy and rubbed it on his gums because it “helps with teething pain.” I shouted so loudly my husband heard me from the backyard.

Fortunately Jeremy didn’t s

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