Dear Eric: I’m living with my mother and am her main caregiver. My brother only contacts me just before coming with his wife and 10-year-old daughter to our family home once a year for a week.

When he leaves, we don’t hear from him. I have asked him several times to call to speak with mum who has dementia. He calls only when prompted and even then, not every time.

As a result, there isn’t much interaction between my mother and her granddaughter which I think is sad.

He said he wants to come for Christmas, but I don’t want them to come. It’s like they are on holiday. I prepare for their visit, i.e. making up beds, cleaning and food shopping.

In this regard, I’m done with being the maid. They usually go to shopping centers, sightseeing and taking the daughter out. They don’t offer help o

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