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A woman refused to invite her mother to Christmas lunch after her mom abandoned the holiday for decades

Tensions escalated when her sister-in-law invited the mom anyway, insisting it was “no big deal”

The poster asked Reddit if standing her ground made her the bad guy

A woman sought support from the Reddit community following a holiday dilemma that resurfaced decades of hurt.

She shared that her parents split when she was nine and that her mom voluntarily stepped back from parenting even though custody had originally been split evenly.

The poster said her mom took them for alternating Christmases but often only “to spite Dad,” leaving the day feeling empty. She added that her father turned Christmas into a true celebration, while her mom “gave up Christmas altogether”

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