MISS MANNERS by Judith Martin, Nicholas Ivor Martin and Jacobina Martin

DEAR MISS MANNERS: My fiance and I are at the point in our lives where we are frequently invited to weddings, often destination weddings. Our friends, most of them affluent, often choose to get married in Europe (or somewhere else far away) to “keep costs down,” even though the flights and hotels make things more expensive for guests.

One particularly egregious example is the daughter of a centimillionaire who held her wedding abroad “to save money” -- and so that her guests would “have an opportunity to take a vacation.” In the view of myself and my fiance, this behavior is selfish and rude. What do you think?

GENTLE READER: That you need only decline the invitation, which will indeed save them money. If everyone

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