DEAR ABBY: Sibling wants full access to terminally ill brother

DEAR ABBY: My brot h er h as ALS and lives in anot h er state. H e h as a wife and c h ildren. H is wife h as decided t h at w h en family visits from out of state, t h ey need to stay in a h otel instead of t h eir h ouse because s h e does not h ave t h e capacity to h ost.

I understand t h at it is stressful to h ave h ouseguests w h ile also being a caregiver for someone wit h a terminal illness. H owever, w h en I come to visit, it is to spend time wit h my brot h er and h elp h im wit h eating, bat h ing, getting dressed, etc. T h at typically h appens in t h e morn