How to Do It is Slate’s sex advice column. Have a question? Send it to Stoya and Rich here. It’s anonymous!

Dear How to Do It,

I’m a 30-year-old man, and I went through a breakup about two years ago after an eight-year relationship. For a while, I didn’t feel emotionally ready to date again. During this time, I’ve discovered something I enjoy in bed.

I like anal play and prostate stimulation. I can actually have prostate orgasms, complete with ejaculation. It’s an intensely pleasurable experience. I feel like I’m ready to date again, and I think it would mean a lot to connect with someone who would be interested in sharing this with me.

However, I think there is some stigma around men who enjoy anal, and I’m not sure I know what a woman would get out of the experience of

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