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Dear How to Do It,

I’m in a great relationship, and the sex is good. But there’s a problem.

She reaches orgasms around eight to 10 times in the session, including through oral and fingering. She can go on and on… It worries me. Sometimes it makes me wonder whether I am actually satisfying her or not—quality over quantity, you know. The women I’ve been with before used to reach one to two orgasms, and then they were sore. I love to give her so many orgasms, but it’s begun to worry me. Is this fine?

—Too Much of a Good Thing?

Dear Too Much of a Good Thing,

Some women can’t orgasm at all, or only with a very specific and sustained effort. Others lose interest or are

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