Dear Annie:

When my boyfriend decided to get serious about his health earlier this year — cleaner eating, regular workouts — I was super proud of him. I cheered him on and swapped out our snacks without complaint.

But somewhere along the way, his personal reboot turned into an ongoing critique of me. If I bring home a loaf of bakery bread, he reminds me how “simple carbs kill energy.” If I skip a workout because I’m tired, he sighs with disapproval. Last week he told me my evening glass of wine was “a bad coping mechanism for stress.” Annie, sometimes I just want a glass of wine!

I’ve tried telling him that I’m happy he’s feeling good, but I don’t want my entire lifestyle audited. He insists he’s only trying to motivate me to be the “best version” of myself.

How do I encourage his heal

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